There have been no updates. We have our home study sent to strangers, we watch the children's posts with fingers crossed, and nothing ever happens and we never hear anything else. Eventually, we assume the children whose summaries and photos we poured over are living in a happy home and doing ok, that we were not the chosen family. Then we find a new set of sibs that we pour over and imagine in our house. Repeat. and repeat. and repeat.... and repeat.
It is such a strange time. People ask us how the adoption is going and we shrug. We have no idea. Is this normal? Why don't the social workers have the courtesy to send out a form letter email thanking us for our interest & letting us know that the kids we came to care for in that unique wishful way had found a home?
In the last month, we have gone to a "meeting" which included us, our adoption specialist, and one other couple we had met in training & we attended an adoption support group that included us and the lady who organized the group. Blink. During the meeting, we told our adoption specialist that we are interested in switching to the foster to adopt side of things. I wrote to her two weeks later and she said she was still waiting for our file to be sent from our home study agency. Now, it's been a month. What is the big hold up? I don't know.
I know that adopting takes a lot of patience, but I feel very much forgotten. It is so maddening to see the ads for adopting kids from foster care when we are sitting here twiddling our thumbs waiting to do just that. We continue to prepare our home, which involves us building a partition wall to divide one giant room into a bedroom and library/playroom. But, other than that, we just go about our lives :)
I'm sorry for venting, but I feel that is all the wisdom I have to offer at the moment. The process is indeed long and uneventful. They are not kidding.
